Very few things in life come easily.
Well, that’s not true.
Excuses come easily. Comfort zones come easily. Same old same comes easily.
Sometimes it’s easy to think that happiness should fall into this category as well. That other people have it often and easily, why don’t I?
We look to social media and think, “Wow, so and so really has it together” and “look at that great trip such and such is on, how happy they look with their family.”
We follow people (those we know and some we don’t) to see all the wonderful things they have going on in their lives, then turn back around and look at the not so shiny pieces of our own lives.
The things we wish were going differently, the things we have said we would change and still haven’t, the things we dream of doing but are too scared to step outside our comfortable place and risk what we already know and have.
We stay inside our comfort zones, not always emotionally comfortable, but perhaps fiscally comfortable. Or maybe outwardly looking comfortable and “successful” and “put together.”
The problem with comfort zones, however, is that they hold us back.
Sure, they keep us nice and cozy. They keep us from worrying about our finances perhaps or what other people might think if we were to follow our dreams (they’re awfully frivolous after all aren’t they). We allow our self-talk to run the show, telling us all the reasons why we don’t need to do anything differently. Making excuses for how hard it is going to be to change courses.
When we stay in our zone of familiarity, however, we never push beyond.
We never risk.
We never see what could happen if we throw all caution to the wind and go for something BIG, bigger than what we know right now.
We allow fear and the thought of failure or judgment to keep us where we are, looking around and wanting, wishing and hoping.
I’m going to tell you something that you probably aren’t going to like right now because I know I don’t like to hear this.
Are you ready?
Everything in life is a choice.
Sure, we all have a certain set of circumstances, environmental circumstances, and physical circumstances.
But if we really stop and think about what we can control, our thoughts, our actions, our reactions, our emotions (yes, we get to choose to let these run the show or we can acknowledge them and choose to let them go), our mindset, our tenacity, our dreams, our resources, our connections, we have opportunities everywhere if we choose to see them and do something.
I’m living outside of my comfort zone right now. And it’s scary as hell, I’m not going to lie. I’m pursuing the uncertain, the dream, the path of greater resistance and I have doubts.
I have days where I think about the steady paycheck I once had with longing and worry that I’ll never know that life again.
I think about all the things I don’t yet know that I wish I did.
I worry about paying back debts that were necessary to start me on this new path.
I think about turning back.
But when those thoughts start to creep in, I also remember my dreams, my visions and my hopes for the future.
I think of all the reasons why I chose to change my life.
I think of the people I’m going to help.
I think of how I’m going to see MYSELF when I accomplish everything I’m setting out to do.
And for a few moments, the noise in my head quiets a little.
It quiets down just enough for me to remember all the reasons why I decided to take a leap of faith.
My title here is a bit misleading, it is NEVER too late to step out of your comfort zone. It is never too late to choose a new path.
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb
So plant your tree, right now!
Think about what that would look like for you.
Visualize it, dream it, think it, make it so real that you can’t possibly stay put where you are.
And then decide not to wait a moment longer.
Talk back to the excuses and the reasons why you can’t or shouldn’t.
Look at what opportunities you can leverage to help you on your way.
Who do you know who can help?
What do you need to succeed that you already have available, and what do you still need?
Test the waters outside your comfort zone and see what the world has to offer.
Then jump in and see what the Universe has to offer you.
The more you give, the more you get.
Then let me know how I can help, I am a resource you have available!