We ALL have our “Moments”

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You know the “moments” I’m talking about.

The ones we try to keep inside, keep hidden, avoid at all costs.

The moments where we lose our s*$t.

These are the moments where we hit the breaking point. Everything boils over and we can’t function any more.

The moments no amount of positive thinking, silver lining, lesson learning, will bring us out of our stuff that is sitting on our chest like an elephant.

At these moments, it’s easy to become caught up in the thought spiral- the doom and gloom of “what else is about to happen?”

And yet, I’m here to tell you that these moments, as painful and embarrassing and “must be hidden at all costs” as they can be, are more common then you would believe.

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It’s time to get off the wheel!

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I love metaphors.

I find when working with people that metaphors are so much easier to grasp, especially when we’re working with really fuzzy concepts that don’t have a physical way to grasp onto them.

So I use metaphors ALL the time with my clients.

Sometimes they’re silly, sometimes more serious, some a little gruesome, and yet what they all have in common is the uncanny ability to lead someone to an “aha” moment or a “huh, I’ve never seen it that way before.”

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Here’s your sign


Have you ever looked up at the sky and noticed a shape in the clouds?  Maybe you see a butterfly, you point to it and ask your friend if they see it as well.

Maybe they do or maybe they say something like “uhm, no. But do you see the dinosaur over there?”

While this is a silly little exchange, the truth is that we can find symbols and messages everywhere we look.  The answers to some of our most burning questions are available to us in places as seemingly innocuous as the clouds or our dreams. Continue reading “Here’s your sign”

Let’s get Vulnerable!

This one today is near and dear to my heart.

Please join me on this journey to greater connection, vulnerability and authenticity.

I invite you to be really REAL with yourself right now, I’m going to show you how, because I’m right there with you.

It doesn’t get much more real than this exercise I’m going to share with you.

The more real you can be the better.

The more honest the better.

The deeper you go with this, the more you will get out of it yourself.

I’m here to support you through this one.

Redefining Life’s Ups and Downs


Life is full of highs and lows.

Comings and goings.

Light and dark.

Often we find ourselves swinging from one side of the pendulum to the other, experiencing the highest of highs only to be brought down by the lowest of lows.

As we experience one side of the spectrum, we look back and wonder how we got here after being in such a different space not long ago.

The ups and downs are a part of life and the shift from one side to another is not only natural, it’s universally determined. Continue reading “Redefining Life’s Ups and Downs”

The #1 Antidote to turbulent times…


These are turbulent times whether we see it or not.

Things are happening so fast it’s hard to keep up.

It is hard to know what to read and how to separate truth from “alternate fact.”

It is also easy to continue life as it is, without paying attention, reading or acting.

Even with attention, it is easy to settle into the bleakness, the fear, the doubt.

The “what can I really do about any of this?”But this is not a political post.

I am not here to vent out my woes/fears/concerns/doubts.

I am here to offer a suggestion.

A suggestion for how we all proceed forward. Together.

Whether we agree or disagree on the state of our Union/policies/world/etc.  there is one thing I think we can all use a little more of:  Compassion.

By a little, I mean a lot.

And by all of us, I quite literally mean Every. Single. Human. Being.

Merriam-Webster defines Compassion as:

  1. :  sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it

Compassion brings us together as people sharing one Earth.

Compassion sees what happens around us and doesn’t turn a blind eye, instead it reaches out a hand and asks, “How can I help?”.

Compassion views the world through the lens of “US” and “not us versus them.”

Because Compassion does not see the individual.

Compassion says you and I are one.

Compassion says your pain is my pain.

Your life is MY life. Your community, MY community.  Your world, MY world.

Compassion does not stand aside to allow others to suffer alone.

Compassion stands up to injustice even in the face of fear and uncertainty.

Compassion gives us fire.

Not fire to hurl at others, but fire to push us forward to change.

Compassion comes from a place of deep love for humanity as a whole.

It can be easy at times like this to fight fire with fire. To throw anger and hatred back at hated and resentment, please fight instead with love and compassion.

Albert Einstein said:

“We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.

We are entitled to our outrage and anger.  When our values are crossed, when injustice is blatantly flaunted in front of us, of course we experience these emotions.  We are after all human.

We do, however, have the choice of how to react.

If we want to solve the problems of our times, we cannot find solutions in the violence or hatred of those who hope to keep us down and say “See, I told you so.”

We must use the fire, use the passion, use the outrage to instead fuel the fire of change.

To fuel the beast that has been awakened in the human community.

We may not have the same beliefs or values or philosophies.

But without a doubt, we are all human beings occupying one little blue marble.

We cannot all agree. We cannot even all get along perfectly.

We can choose however to be one race.

The human race.

We are in this life together, right here and right now.

Alone our voice is hard to hear.

But together, we ROAR.